I’ve spent some time recently thinking about grace and character and the lacrosse case.
My son is a straight A 15 year old. At 3 weeks old, he sat at my twice alma mater’s Cameron center court. Duke Banners, tee shirts, and sweats abound in his room – ok, sometimes not where they ought to be but they are proudly displayed both at home and at school
Recently he received a 92 on an English Paper. (Guess things have changed indeed because that was always a “B” for us, but it was an A for him.) He noted that the teacher made a mistake and brought it to her attention. She marked it accordingly changing his grade to an 88 – a B even in my day. His friends teased and ridiculed him for telling her.
I told him they were jealous – just plain jealous of the character it takes to take responsibility and to value ones own integrity. And I told him I was extraordinarily proud.
Hold that thought for a moment.
Dr. Jerry Bridges ("What is Grace?") most eloquently defined Grace as: God's favor through Christ to people who deserve His wrath. T here can be no doubt that many enablers of the now non-hoax deserve wrath. They receive the wrath from many of us each day.
Leaders understand Grace and Character. But both have been in short supply in this case.
We’ve seen some extraordinary even public demonstrations of character. And we’ve labeled them the heroes that they are.
But we’ve rarely seen demonstrations of grace. Tom Crowley received the wrath of many. He also received the grace of even more as he publicly apologized. Your blog, John in Carolina, CrystalMess, KC’s and others showed great character and grace as you extended your thanks and recognition of his courage to admit his humanity and mistakes.
We need to lead those deserving wrath to a demonstration of their character through grace.
To Mike Nifong:
Mike, you screwed up. I know it, you know it, and a ton of other people know it. It is important that you come clean and take your licks. If you do so in a most public and humble fashion you may receive grace. If you do not, you will continue to receive wrath. You will continue to receive wrath for a variety of reasons but perhaps mostly because you have a leadership position requiring more from you – it just comes with the job. You see, we have this notion that we expect character from our elected leading officials – and we get pretty ticked off when they don’t demonstrate it. Don’t get me wrong though, just because you come forward to take your licks does not mean you won’t, like in my son’s case, receive a B. Frankly, I think yours is going to be a F. That’s just the way it is. But you have a chance to regain grace.
Mike, you are not alone. There are others in leadership positions that have not yet demonstrated the character deep within themselves. However, one by one they will do so because it is part of their jobs. They also recognize if they don’t do so, they, like you, will likely lose their jobs or at least will lose respect of those they are to lead because they failed to demonstrate character. For real leaders with character the lose of that respect gnaws at them every minute of the day.
The so called “Tipping Point” has been reached Mike.
Who will be next in demonstrating their character Mike?
When will be the next demonstration of character in this charade Mike?
When and who?